It's true. We're just not as into sex as guys. I'm sure there are some women out there who will disagree - perhaps a few porn stars or others who make their livings pretending that they want sex all the time.
For most of us (at least in my unscientific polling of female friends), we like it well enough, but it's just not a priority.
Why?
Well here's my theory (I'm famous for these) ... women aren't as into sex because we're worried about getting pregnant. Duh!
From the time we're kids we're told that if we get pregnant our lives will be ruined. We like to think that we are liberated and in control but the fact is that even if we're using the pill, condoms, and tracking our fertile days, there's always a chance.
Imagine if someone told you that you could have a delicious piece of chocolate cake (had to work cake into this somehow), but that there was a reasonable chance that every time you ate that cake, you would get sick, get fat (interestingly applies to cake AND sex), let down your family and possibly be disowned by them, ruin your career and future ability to work, stop doing most of the activities that you love, and have unbelievable amounts of stress in your life?
It doesn't matter how good that cake is, it just doesn't sound all that appealing anymore now does it?
Even when you stop worrying that it will be the end of your world (like after you've gotten married and your partner is cool with it and won't leave you a single mommy scraping by on welfare checks and half your friends have kids so you won't be a total social outcast), it's hard to get excited about that cake. Those fears still linger.
In case you think I'm overstating women's fears about getting pregnant, look at my friend Mandy* who had a blood clot from using birth control pills and still uses them because she'd "rather have a stroke than get pregnant".
How sad is that?
The point is, we spend our whole lives being freaked out about getting pregnant. It's hard to enjoy something that has the potential to cause a lot of chaos. And yes, it causes chaos for men too, but I would venture to say it's a lot less.
After all, a lot of us would still eat the cake even if it might cause us a headache...or a funny rash.
* Mandy I changed your name, but you know who you are and I still think this is one of the dumbest things I've ever heard!
FU global warming naysayers!!!! The pigeons are eating ice cream in my backyard because it's so f'in hot!
